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PowerPoint:
Domestic Violence isn't just hitting, or fighting, or an occasional mean argument. It's a chronic abuse of power. The abuser tortures and controls the victim by calculated threats, intimidation, and physical violence. Actual physical violence is often the end result of months or years of intimidation and control.
Is Domestic violence is violence between adult intimate partners?
The term "intimate partners" in some cases refers only to people who are cohabitating or have cohabited (lived together) whereas at other times "intimate partners" refers to people who are dating or who have dated at some time in the past.
The following are widely recognized as forms of emotional abuse.
Rejecting - refusing to acknowledge a person's presence, value or worth; communicating to a person that she or he is useless or inferior; devaluing her/his thoughts and feelings.
Degrading - insulting, ridiculing, name calling, imitating and infantilizing
Terrorizing - inducing terror or extreme fear in a person
Isolating - physical confinement; restricting normal contact with others
Corrupting/Exploiting - using a person for advantage or profit; training a child to serve the interests of the abuser and not of the child.
Denying Emotional Responsiveness - failing to provide care in a sensitive and responsive manner; being detached and uninvolved; interacting only when necessary; ignoring a person's mental health needs.
What is physical abuse?
• slapping
• kicking
• shoving
• choking
• pinching
• forced feeding
• pulling hair
• punching
• throwing things
• burning
• beating
• use of weapons (gun, knives, or any object)
• Physical restraint - pinning against wall, floor, bed, etc.
• reckless driving
The abuse can start with something small—a shove during an argument, or forcefully grabbing your wrist—and usually becomes more severe and more frequent over time. Physical abuse can—and too often does—result in death.
Physical assault or battering is a crime, whether it occurs inside or outside of the family.
What is Sexual Abuse?
Sexual abuse is when an intimate partner has...
• minimized the importance of your feelings about sex
• criticized you sexually
• insisted on unwanted or uncomfortable touching
• withheld sex and affection
• forced sex after physical abuse or when you were sick
• raped you
• been jealously angry, assuming you would have sex with anyone
• insisted that you dress in a more sexual way than you wanted
• Domestic abuse falls into a common pattern, or cycle of violence:
• Abuse: the abuser lashes out with aggressive or violent behavior
• Guilt: after the abusive episode, the abuser feels guilt, but not over what he's done to the victim.
• Rationalization or excuses: The abuser rationalizes what he's done.
• "Normal" behavior: the abuser does everything he can to regain control and keep the victim in the relationship.
• Fantasy and planning: The abuser begins to fantasize about abusing his victim again, spending a lot of time thinking about what she's done wrong and how he'll make her pay.
• Set-up: the abuser sets up the victim and puts his plan in motion, creating a situation where he can justify abusing her.
It is hard to stop because it is hard to report
Women
Fear retaliation against themselves and their children by the abuser
Fear the economic upheaval that may follow the report
Women’s self-esteem is so low as a result of spouse abuse that they are unable to see themselves as worthy of seeking help, or they rationalize the abuse.
Will try to solve the problem by talking it out with the abuser, by fighting back, or by trying to change their behavior to meet the demands of the abuser
When they fail to stop the abuse, women may become passive, which may reduce the immediate danger, or may go into a state of emotional withdrawal
When women do discuss domestic violence with an authority, they are most likely to do so with their physician. The physician identifies abuse as a problem in only one abuse victim in twenty who presents for care.
For children, the fear is more than fear of injury or death. Children fear the destruction of their family - their world. Middle-school aged children have an awareness of things such as poverty, foster homes, and homelessness, and may be unable to cope with the uncertainty that reporting abuse may cause.
> Effects of Domestic Violence
Long-term effects of domestic violence on women who have been abused may include:
• anxiety
• chronic depression
• chronic pain
• death
• dehydration
• dissociative states
• drug and alcohol dependence
• eating disorders
• emotional "over-reactions" to stimuli
• general emotional numbing
• health problems
• malnutrition
• panic attacks
• poor adherence to medical recommendations
• poverty
• repeated self-injury
• self neglect
• sexual dysfunction
• sleep disorders
• somatization disorders
• strained family relationships
• suicide attempts
Domestic violence can severely impair a parent's ability to nurture the development of their children. Mothers who are abused may be depressed or preoccupied with the violence. They may be emotionally withdrawn or numb, irritable or have feelings of hopelessness.
when children cannot depend on their parents or caregivers - for emotional support and for practical support - their development can be seriously delayed or, in severe cases, permanently distorted. Children without an emotionally available parent may withdraw from relationships and social activities.
Estimates are that more than 3.3 million children are exposed to physical and verbal spousal abuse each year. 14 Exposure means seeing or hearing the actual abuse or dealing with the aftermath of the abuse.
When describing the effects of domestic violence on children, it is important to note that domestic violence and child abuse are often present in the same families.
Many children in families where domestic violence has occurred appeared to be "parentified." They are forced to grow up faster than their peers, often taking on the responsibility of cooking, cleaning and caring for younger children.
Children may also be isolated. Children underlying all these "symptoms" of domestic violence are children's emotional responses: i.e. anger - misery - intense terror - fear of dying - fear of the loss of a parent. Children may feel rage, guilt, or a sense of responsibility for the violence,
INFANTS AND TODDLERS:
Infants and toddlers who witness violence show excessive irritability, immature behavior, sleep disturbances, emotional distress, fears of being alone, and regression in toileting and language. Preschool children may develop enuresis and speech disfluencies, such as stuttering. "Exposure to trauma, especially family violence, interferes with a child's normal development of trust and later exploratory behaviors, which lead to the development of autonomy."
The organizations below provide emergency services, shelter, and counseling services for people in Illinois. If you want to do something about domestic violence, contact one of these organizations or a similar organization in your area, and donate time and money.
Help is Available! Resource Directory
Illinois Domestic Violence Resources:
American Red Cross-Greater Chicago
Chicago Abused Women's Coalition
Constance Morris House
Crisis Center for South Suburbia
Crisis Line of Will County
Evanston Shelter for Battered Women
Family Rescue, Inc.
Family Shelter Service
A Friend's Place
Home of the Sparrow
House Of The Good Shepherd
Korean American Women In Need
Life Span
Metropolitan Family Services
Neopolitan Lighthouse
A Safe Place
Sarah's Inn
South Suburban Family Shelter, Inc.
Southwest Women Working Together
Script:The term "intimate partners" in some cases refers only to people who are cohabitating or have cohabited (lived together) whereas at other times "intimate partners" refers to people who are dating or who have dated at some time in the past.
This could broaden the definition to be violence between any of the following: husbands, wives, ex-husbands, ex-wives, partners, ex-partners, brothers, sisters, mothers, fathers, children, people who have lived together (which could include cousins, brothers-in-law, sisters-in-law, and caregivers), and people who are or have dated in the past.
A better definition of domestic violence is emotional abuse, physical abuse, or sexual abuse between people who have at some time had an intimate or family relationship.
The following are widely recognized as forms of emotional abuse.
Rejecting - refusing to acknowledge a person's presence, value or worth
Degrading - behavior which diminishes the identity, dignity and self-worth of the person
Terrorizing - inducing terror or extreme fear in a person
Isolating - limiting freedom within a person's own environment.
Corrupting/Exploiting - using a person for advantage or profit;
Denying Emotional Responsiveness - failing to provide care in a sensitive and responsive manner
• Abuse —the abuse is a power play designed to show the victim "who is boss."
• Guilt —the guilt is over the possibility of being caught and facing consequences.
• Rationalization or excuses —He may come up with a string of excuses or blame the victim for his own abusive behavior—anything to shift responsibility from himself.
• "Normal" behavior —He may act as if nothing has happened, or he may turn on the charm. This peaceful honeymoon phase may give the victim hope that the abuser has really changed this time.
• Fantasy and planning —the abuser begins to fantasize about abusing his victim again, then he makes a plan for turning the fantasy of abuse into reality.
• Set-up — the abuser sets up the victim and puts his plan in motion, creating a situation where he can justify abusing her.
Physical abuse is the use of physical force against someone in a way that injures or endangers that person. There’s a broad range of behaviors that come under the heading of physical abuse, including hitting, grabbing, choking, throwing things, and assault with a weapon.
Sexual abuse, also referred to as molestation, is defined as the forcing of undesired sexual acts by one person to another. Child sexual abuse refers to situations when the victim is younger than the age of consent.
Victims of domestic violence are reluctant to report abuse.
Women’s self-esteem is so low as a result of spouse abuse .Police complain that often when they arrest an abuser, the victims want them to drop the charges.
When they fail to stop the abuse, women may become passive, which may reduce the immediate danger. Abuse may push a woman to see only two options: suicide or homicide. 8
For children, the fear is more than fear of injury or death. Even when adults in the community such as school personnel or neighbors report the abuse, children may outright deny it. Children may experience feelings of shame, guilt, and divided loyalties to parents making it unlikely that they will disclose the violence to others. 9
Only 1% of physicians practicing in health maintenance organizations screened for domestic violence. Obstetrician/gynecologists (17%) and physicians practicing in public clinic settings (37%) were more likely to screen patients. A recent survey of physician attitudes found that "45% of clinicians never or seldom asked about domestic violence when examining injured patients". The result is less than 15% of female patients report being asked about abuse by doctors or telling their doctors about their abuse. 17
The result can be a parent who is less emotionally available to their children or unable to care for their children's basic needs. Battering fathers are less affectionate, less available, and less rational in dealing with their children. Studies even suggest that "battered women may use more punitive child-rearing strategies or exhibit aggression toward their children." 4
Since childhood is the time when social skills and attitudes are learned, domestic violence can affect their ability to form relationships for the rest of their lives.
Parents who have been traumatized by violence must cope with their own trauma before they are able to help their children.
"In homes where domestic violence occurs, children are physically abused and neglected at a rate 15 times higher than the national average. Several studies have shown that in 60% to 75% of families in which a woman is battered, children are also battered." 14 In addition, children living in households where domestic violence is occurring are at a higher risk for sexual abuse.
They learned at a young age to be prepared for anything. Typical activities such as having friends over to their house may be impossible due to the chaotic atmosphere. However, school performance is not always obviously affected. Children may respond by being overachievers.
in domestic violence tend to be either extremely introverted or extremely extroverted. Psychosomatic problems (aches and pains for no apparent reason) are common; these children's eating and sleeping patterns tend to be disrupted. Children who witness domestic violence can develop behavior problems, including aggression and violent outbursts.
which can stifle emotional and social development. To learn and grow into a healthy adult, children must feel confident in the world and in themselves. Domestic violence can wipe out a child's confidence and leave them shocked.
There are many different services for individuals who are experiencing an abusive situation. Law enforcement and legal aid agencies, shelters and counseling services are available to help with the many needs of women and their children experiencing violence. Counseling, group therapy and education for men who have been abusers is also available.
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